Know that not everyone is suitable to be your friend


Know that not everyone is suitable to be your friend. You must verify that this potential friend has the necessary characteristics that make friendship with him something to be desired. The one you seek to befriend must have five characteristics:

  • He must be intelligent, as there is no good in befriending an idiot, as he will only harm you when he wants to benefit you. By intelligent, we mean one who understands things as they are, either on his own, or if they are explained to him;
  • He must have good manners, and this is a must. One who is simply intelligent might be overcome by anger or desire, and obey his desire. Thus, there would be no benefit in befriending him;
  • He must not be a fasiq, as such a person would not fear Allaah, and whoever does not fear Allaah cannot be trusted;
  • He must not be an innovator, as his abundance of innovation is feared from befriending him;
  • He should not be eager for the dunya.

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[‘Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasidin’; p. 126-132] – Ibn Qudamah al Maqdisi]

About Umm Abdulazeez

"I am a Muslim who is upon the Qur'aan and the Sunnah and upon the methodology of the Salaf As-Saalih (Pious Predecessors). And that can be said in short by saying, 'I am a Salafee' " [Shaykh Al-Albaanee رحمه الله] ________ Sufyaan Ath-Thawree (rahimahullaah) said: “Indeed knowledge should only be learned for the purpose of fearing Allaah. Indeed, knowledge has been given virtue over other than it because with it Allaah is feared.” [Jaam'i Bayaan al-'Ilm wa Fadlihi by Imaam Ibn Abdil-Barr (rahimahullaah)]
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One Response to Know that not everyone is suitable to be your friend

  1. daw2alnojoom says:

    Mashallah… I liked this

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