From the Morals and manners of the Salaf was their infrequent laughter and bragging about worldly gains. Even worldly gain like clothes, riding animals, marriages etc, would be a cause to withdraw themselves, dreading that such temporary enjoyments were reductions from their pleasures in the Hereafter.
‘Umar ibn Al-Khattab (radiallaahu ‘anhu) said, “If I was not to fear my good deeds would be reduced, I would have participated in your luxurious ways, but I heard Allaah rebukes some people (who are being sent to Hellfire) saying: You received your good things in your worldly life and you took your gratification out of them.” (Sooratul-‘Ahqaf 46:20)
The people of Allaah (azza wa jal) only differ from others by their preparations for the Afterlife in readiness for its conditions.
So dear brother, reflect upon your soul and how absorbed you are in negligence and unawareness of the things which bring you close to Allaah the Most High. Increase in seeking His forgiveness.
One of the Salaf said, “If it can be that no one beats you to Allaah, then do so”
Another person said, “If you see someone competing to overtake you in the worldly things, then compete to overtake him in the Deen”
Hasan Al-Basri (rahimahullaah) was described by some as follows,“By Allaah If he arrived, it was as if he had returned from a beloved’s burial, and if he withdrew, it was as if the fire was above his head. When he sat, it was as if he a convict waiting for his head to be toppled. In the morning it was as if he had arrived from his afterlife, and in the evening it was as if sickness had worn him away”
Hasan Al-Basri (rahimahullaah) said, “It has reached me that one of the righteous persevered that Allaah should not see him laughing until he knew which of the two abode he would be in; the Paradise or the Hell.” He then said, “He was certainly determined-may-Allaah have mercy on him- and he fulfilled his ambition, never been seen laughing until he met Allaah.”