Question: My wife used to pray regularly until her first child. After that she became quite lazy, claiming that a woman’s sins are all forgiven due to the pain she faces during labour. What do you say to her?
Response: This is not true. If the woman, like other humans, faces some hardship and she is patient and hopes for reward for that, she will be rewarded due to that pain and affliction. In fact, the Prophet (sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) gave examples of much lesser types of pain which expiate sins, such as being pricked by a thorn. Know that if a person has patience and expects reward from Allaah for anything that has afflicted him, he will be rewarded according to what he has of patience and expectations. The essence of affliction is the removal of his sins. The one who is afflicted has his sins removed under any circumstance.
Furthermore, if this is accompanied with patience, the person will also be rewarded for his patience with his affliction. When a woman gives birth, there is no doubt that she suffers a lot of pain and hardship. That pain removes some of her sins from her. If she is also patient and expecting reward from Allaah, then, in addition to having sins removed, she will also be rewarded and have good deeds recorded for her.