Being patient with the wife and advising her to repent and adopt good morals


Fatwa no. 7475

Q: I have a very good wife who keeps up Salah (Prayer) and observes Hijab (veil) in such a perfect manner that she has convinced all the women of our village to observe it. She has many good qualities but she makes some mistakes that I cannot overlook, lest they have a religious ruling. when she is angry, she curses me or my father, or utters things like, “May the Jinn harm you,” “I am not lawful to you” or “It is lawful for me to be your wife anymore.” Is it better for me to be patient? Are these words considered a serious violation of our marital duties?

A: If your wife is as righteous as you have mentioned, but she is afflicted with a foul mouth, you should tolerate her for the merits she has and advise her to avoid cursing and using foul language. You should urge her to perform Tawbah (repentance to Allah) and to avoid the reasons that cause her to get angry. Moreover, she must offer Kaffarah (expiation) for taking a false oath deeming her unlawful to you, but this has no effect on your marital relationship.

May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions!

Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta’
Member Member Deputy Chairman Chairman
`Abdullah ibn Qa`ud `Abdullah ibn Ghudayyan `Abdul-Razzaq `Afify `Abdul-`Aziz ibn `Abdullah ibn Baz

About Umm Abdulazeez

"I am a Muslim who is upon the Qur'aan and the Sunnah and upon the methodology of the Salaf As-Saalih (Pious Predecessors). And that can be said in short by saying, 'I am a Salafee' " [Shaykh Al-Albaanee رحمه الله] ________ Sufyaan Ath-Thawree (rahimahullaah) said: “Indeed knowledge should only be learned for the purpose of fearing Allaah. Indeed, knowledge has been given virtue over other than it because with it Allaah is feared.” [Jaam'i Bayaan al-'Ilm wa Fadlihi by Imaam Ibn Abdil-Barr (rahimahullaah)]
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