Combining Honor, Wealth and Righteousness in a Wife

Al Hafidh al Mizzi states in Tahdeeb al Kamaal: 11/194:

Yahya ibn Yayha an Naysaboori said:

I was with Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah when a man approached him and said:

“O Abu Muhammad, I came to complain to you about my wife, I am the most lowly and disliked of things to her.”

Sufyan remained silent for a while then said: “It may be that you were only interested in her to increase yourself in honor.”

The man said: “Yes, O Abu Muhammad.”

Sufyan said: “Whoever seeks honor [by marrying a woman] will be tested with lowliness, and whoever seeks wealth [by marrying a woman] will be tested with poverty, but whoever looks for righteousness [in a woman], then Allah would combine both honor and wealth with righteousness for him in her.”

He then told him a story, he said:

“We were four brothers; Muhammad, ‘Imran, Ibraheem and me. Muhammad was the oldest, ‘Imran was the youngest and I was in between.

When Muhammad wanted to get married, he was interested in lineage, so he married a woman of better lineage than him, so Allah tested him with lowliness.

‘Imran was interested in wealth, so he married a woman who was wealthier than him, so Allah tested him with poverty. They took his wealth and didn’t give him anything.

So I pondered over their affair. Ma’mar ibn Rashid traveled to us so I spoke to him about the affair and told him of their story. He reminded me of the Ahadeeth that ‘A-isha and Yahya ibn Ja’dah narrated.

As for Ja’dah’s Hadeeth; the Prophet – صلى الله عليه وسلم – said:

“A woman is married for four reasons: righteousness, lineage, wealth and beauty. Marry the one with righteousness and you will be successful.”

‘A-isha’s Hadeeth is as follows; the Prophet – صلى الله عليه وسلم – said:

 “The woman with the greatest blessing is the one with the least Mahr”

So I chose righteousness and a small dowry, following the Sunnah of the Messenger – صلى الله عليه وسلم – so Allah combined honor, wealth and righteousness for me [in my wife].”

[Reference: Tahdheeb al Kamaal by Al Hafidh al Mizzee|Courtesy of: Subulassalaam]

About Umm Abdulazeez

"I am a Muslim who is upon the Qur'aan and the Sunnah and upon the methodology of the Salaf As-Saalih (Pious Predecessors). And that can be said in short by saying, 'I am a Salafee' " [Shaykh Al-Albaanee رحمه الله] ________ Sufyaan Ath-Thawree (rahimahullaah) said: “Indeed knowledge should only be learned for the purpose of fearing Allaah. Indeed, knowledge has been given virtue over other than it because with it Allaah is feared.” [Jaam'i Bayaan al-'Ilm wa Fadlihi by Imaam Ibn Abdil-Barr (rahimahullaah)]
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